A little note on ‘comparison’

"I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations. And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful. If not, it can't be helped" - Fritz Perls

We must live up to our own expectations of ourselves and not those placed on us by others outside of our personal experience! It's difficult in this day and age to not succumb to comparison-itis and feel we are not meeting certain societal beliefs of what makes us worthy of success and happiness!

"it is like comparing apples to oranges"

I have most definitely been there myself - as much as I would like to think I am… I am not immune to the thief of joy that is comparing my perceived achievements or failures to those around me! But awareness is key! Once I am aware, I take steps to come back to my centre, take responsibility and shift my perspective!

These steps include things like, taking a few deep breaths, closing down the apps and tabs, spending time in nature, preparing and drinking tea with intention and stretching! Is there something that you do to relieve the overwhelming pressure of expectation? I would love to know!

Fritz Perls was a Psychiatrist who developed Gestalt therapy, a therapy that puts emphasis on an individual's experience in the present moment and the personal responsibility we all have to self-regulate and make changes to our situation. We can all change the way we perceive something when we are in the present moment! What a gift!